/rant - LADIES, have a life separate from your man, be it study, hobby, weekly girls nights etc. Sure you love the guy but spending 24/7 with one person can/will be detrimental to your relationship and relationships with your mates. And don't fully rely on him for your every need/want. Be independant. For your own sake.... And for his sake. And for your mates' sakes. And if you're single - Enjoy it!
That is all/
Today, the above was my status update on Facebook. In the past few weeks, and beyond that actually, I've seen girls, and guys, getting sick of their boyfriend or girlfriend (respectively), or just fighting, or feeling like they're being controlled, or stifled, and I'll ask what they do by them self, do they work with their partner? Do they study with their partner? Do they live with their partner (usually I already know that one)? Do they have time to themself, at all, at any time during the week where they go out with mates without the other half around, or just go out for a walk, or something, by themself? Usually, they'll say no, they do everything together and for girls it'll be - "Oh, but I can't live without him!" - I'm sorry, girls, but please, PLEASE, get a grip, a reality check, whatever you want to call it.
If you can't physically live without the guy, can't do anything without him around, it's a bad place to be in.
I'm not a feminist, but every girl needs to be able to have her independance and confidence in herself, who she is DISREGARDING her man. Its what guys find hot, and even if you're in a stable relationship, if you lose your flavour, your spark of 'you', things can go downhill. Don't do it, girls. And guys, let your girl do her own thing, she'll grow into something more beautiful than you can imagine, or 'make' her into, doing something that she loves and feels confident doing. Trust her.
Be strong in yourself. Trust your partner. Let them spread their wings and show you something amazing. If you can't love completely, where's the basis of the relationship?
Don't stifle something beautiful.
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Thursday, July 8, 2010
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Goodbyes and New Beginnings
The last couple of weeks have been really interesting...
- I've had to say goodbye to a good girlfriend of mine, who's going to Europe to further her studies at Maastricht. I'm really happy for her but at the same time this beautiful girl will be missed.
- I've missed an engagement party for 2 friends of mine in Kalgoorlie... But that's ok kinda. I'm pretty sure I'll be able to see them tie the knot, and I can't wait... I love weddings, and I think that these two are amazing together =D
- An old friend of mine (from primary school) has just got engaged.
- Another old friend of mine has had a little girl, and yet another friend has found out his fiance is expecting.
And exams are over, but that really doesn't matter in comparison to goodbyes, babies and weddings.
Every time someone gets engaged I think - How can they know, and trust, that their partner will be theirs for life? How can they live with this guy or girl for the rest of their life and know that the romance won't suddenly fade after a few years? I know that my partner and I have spoken about marriage and are seriously considering it but... Still have to get established, money for a house etc, I'm still in university. But I love the guy and we've been together well over a year now. I still have problems with trust and sure, we have disagreements, but my friends think he's so good for me (apparently he's the right amount of insanity, stubborness chivalry, and I'd have competition if he wasn't mine already - gotta love those friends who say exactly what they're thinking ey).
My mate that just got engaged has only been with her man for 10 months or so, and she's the same age as me (ok, a couple months older but hardly a difference) but she trusts this guy implicitly. Something I heard once.. "Together a year and a day" ... And it makes perfect sense. To know someone, to be with them at least a year and a day so you see how they react in different situations, birthdays, christmas, new years etc. But 10 months from not knowing the guy until getting engaged and getting married this November? I don't know if it's just me, but that seems really fast. But then, each to their own and maybe I'm just super cautious. Ah well. Each to their own.
Anyway, enough of my rambling ramblings. I should really get my room tidy (it's a neverending battle) and go fill my car up while the fuel prices are still half-decent.
Toodles
x
- I've had to say goodbye to a good girlfriend of mine, who's going to Europe to further her studies at Maastricht. I'm really happy for her but at the same time this beautiful girl will be missed.
- I've missed an engagement party for 2 friends of mine in Kalgoorlie... But that's ok kinda. I'm pretty sure I'll be able to see them tie the knot, and I can't wait... I love weddings, and I think that these two are amazing together =D
- An old friend of mine (from primary school) has just got engaged.
- Another old friend of mine has had a little girl, and yet another friend has found out his fiance is expecting.
And exams are over, but that really doesn't matter in comparison to goodbyes, babies and weddings.
Every time someone gets engaged I think - How can they know, and trust, that their partner will be theirs for life? How can they live with this guy or girl for the rest of their life and know that the romance won't suddenly fade after a few years? I know that my partner and I have spoken about marriage and are seriously considering it but... Still have to get established, money for a house etc, I'm still in university. But I love the guy and we've been together well over a year now. I still have problems with trust and sure, we have disagreements, but my friends think he's so good for me (apparently he's the right amount of insanity, stubborness chivalry, and I'd have competition if he wasn't mine already - gotta love those friends who say exactly what they're thinking ey).
My mate that just got engaged has only been with her man for 10 months or so, and she's the same age as me (ok, a couple months older but hardly a difference) but she trusts this guy implicitly. Something I heard once.. "Together a year and a day" ... And it makes perfect sense. To know someone, to be with them at least a year and a day so you see how they react in different situations, birthdays, christmas, new years etc. But 10 months from not knowing the guy until getting engaged and getting married this November? I don't know if it's just me, but that seems really fast. But then, each to their own and maybe I'm just super cautious. Ah well. Each to their own.
Anyway, enough of my rambling ramblings. I should really get my room tidy (it's a neverending battle) and go fill my car up while the fuel prices are still half-decent.
Toodles
x
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